The turning of a year turns our thoughts to how we might improve upon the year that’s receding. Here are 10 suggestions for things to change in 2011. Fear of making a mistake. Face it, you will. Do your best and no one can fault you. Jumping to conclusions. Think situations through before rendering judgment. […]
Author: Ilona Tobin
Winter Newsletter 2011
DOWNLOAD THIS ARTICLE AND MORE AS A PDF FILE by clicking this link: Winter Newsletter 2011 Living With Grief: How to Survive a Significant Loss One of the hardest things we’ll ever experience is the loss of someone—or something—dear to us. Grieving is a normal and natural response to this loss. While death is one […]
Recovering from Debt Addiction
(Excerpt from Fall Newsletter 2010) John has a well-paying job, but carries a debt load equal to half his salary. He spends compulsively, buying things he doesn’t really need. Because he also doesn’t keep track of his finances, he frequently bounces checks. John would like to get control of his spending, but hasn’t been able […]
The Empty Nest: What Happens When the Chicks Fly
From the second they arrive on the planet, just inches long and utterly dependent, our children occupy a place in our hearts deeper than most any other relationship. We nurture, guide, feed and protect them for years. The relationship brings us a complex mixture of joy, frustration, sadness, delight, anger, pride and love. Our children […]
Top 3 Enemies of Depression
(Excerpt from Fall Newsletter 2010) In addition to talk therapy, there are powerful yet simple things that you can do to help yourself heal from depression. Inspired by Dr. Robert Hedaya’s book on dealing with the side effects of medication, The Anti-Depressant Survival Program, here are three ways to combat depression, whether you’re on anti-depressants […]
Fall Newsletter, 2010
DOWNLOAD THIS ARTICLE AND MORE AS A PDF FILE by clicking this link: Fall Newsletter 2010 There are no classes in life for beginners,” wrote poet Rainer Maria Rilke. “Right away you are always asked to deal with what is most difficult.” Saying the hard thing can be one of the most difficult things we […]
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall How Your Body Image Could Be Harming You
Do you ever have thoughts like these? My life would be better if I looked better. I will never look as good as _____________. My _________ is/are so ugly. I am so fat. That scale/size can’t be right. I look disgusting; no one could ever love me. If you do, you’re not alone. Numerous studies […]
How to Be Assertive Without Alienating Your Partner
Asking for what you want—and setting boundaries around what you don’t want—is a key life skill. But sometimes in our enthusiasm to practice this skill, we over-do our own assertiveness and end up with a partner who shuts down, gets angry or feels resentful. Here are four tips for developing your assertiveness in a way […]
Aging Well: Make the Investment Now
Groucho Marx once said: “Age is not a particularly interesting subject. Anyone can get old. All you have to do is live long enough.” Aging well, in contrast, is an entirely separate art that involves planning, getting clear on your own definition of the “good life” and self-care. Making these investments in your life now […]
The Effect of Family Roles on Life’s Choices
With hardly any thought at all, you can probably say whether, in your family of origin, you played the role of the responsible one or the rebel, the people pleaser or the mascot. Roles serve an organizing function. In a family, roles sort out each person’s relationship to the group. While there’s nothing inherently wrong […]