Ilona L. Tobin, Ed.D.

Licensed Psychologist

Just like doing maintenance on your car to keep it running well, it’s a good idea to do a personal check-in to keep yourself on track. Use your journal if you keep one, or just clip these questions, or copy them down for a regular check-in.

  1. Is there something I need to do that I haven’t done? If an action needs to be taken and you’re not taking it, ask yourself what’s in the way.
  2. Am I resisting something? Sometimes that which we resist most is that which can provide the greatest opportunity for growth.
  3. Am I holding onto something I need to let go of? Letting go can be hard, but it’s the only way to move forward.
  4. Am I repeating old patterns? Do the same problems or situations show up wearing different clothes? If so, it might be time to dig deep into the bottom of this closet.
  5. Is there something for me to learn here? Resistance, holding on, repeating harmful or unsatisfying patterns almost always hold a life lesson.
  6. Am I staying in the present? Time spent regretting the past and worrying about the future is time lost to the present.
  7. Am I asking for what I need and want? Do I act as my own advocate?
  8. Am I taking good care of myself? Check in with the physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual aspects of your life.
  9. Am I at peace with people, places and things in my life? Being at peace means being in balance.
  10. Am I having fun at least some of the time? Don’t forget to laugh