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COPING WITH CHANGE
The world seems to be changing at an extraordinary pace. We get used to the way things are, and then they shift. That change can be unsettling; even positive change can throw us for a loop.
As soon as something nudges us out of our regular routine, or challenges our understanding of how the world works and where we fit into it, we’re likely to experience a deluge of feelings, including fear, anxiety, overwhelm, excitement, distraction or denial.
In turn, those feelings can manifest in behavior. You may, unconsciously, act out with aggressive or passiveaggressive communication. You may push yourself to overwork or take the opposite approach and procrastinate, avoiding what’s on your plate.
Your self-care may suffer. You may reach for unhealthy substances or behaviors, get less sleep, skip meals or overindulge. You might cut yourself off from friends and family and spend more time alone or with people who have unhealthy habits.
Stress from both positive and negative change can have immediate and longterm effects. Stress inhibits digestion and absorption of nutrients, impairs your body’s ability to ward off germs, can cause insomnia and worsen preexisting health conditions. If you’re also engaging in unhealthy behaviors and poor self-care, you’re at an even higher risk for illness or injury. Mental abilities can be affected, as well. When you’re preoccupied, worried and focused on the future instead of the present, it’s much harder to concentrate and/or apply your brainpower to what’s in front of you.
Great leaders are admired for their serenity and confidence in the face of uncertainty. For many of us, though, when change is afoot, serenity is far from our reach. Instead, emotions are much closer to the surface and can flare up at inopportune times.
Whether you lash out, cry or pound on your desk, it’s uncomfortable to feel out of control. How to Cope with Change
Here are five strategies to help you face change:
1. Take care of your body. Eat well, sleep well, exercise to discharge stress and refrain from harmful habits, such as smoking, excessive drinking, recreational drugs or other risky behavior.
2. Take care of your mind. Stay in the present moment by practicing deep breathing and/or meditation. Challenge your negative thinking and keep things in perspective.
3. Express your emotions in healthy ways. Share them with your therapist and people you trust. Vent your negative feelings by pounding on a pillow or banging on a drum.
4. Treat others well. Strengthen your good relationships so you can draw on their support, and work at your
challenging relationships so they don’t add to your stress.
5. Take charge. Be proactive and prepare the best you can for the changes that might come, but then accept the reality of the moment. Think back to other challenges you’ve come through and remind yourself that everything will work out okay this time, too.
Into every life change will come, but its lasting impact doesn’t have to be harmful. Change also has a way of opening new and rewarding doors.
Bottom line, let change be the catalyst for better self-care, which will feed you in all times, stable and uncertain.